Monday, September 10, 2007

Welcome Back to School

Going back to school has been a killer. MAN it makes me tired just thinking about it! This morning I swore it was Friday when I woke up. I was so excited. WHAT THE HECK! It is only Monday.

My kids are sweet. I have some crazy little boogers but they were for sure hand picked for me.

Well I over heard a little conversation today. It sort of broke my heart. One little girl tells another little girl, "My sister got married." The other girl said, "What happens after you get married?" The reply was, "You have babies." I wish it was that easy for everyone.

I love my team. Of course there are some characters that can drive you crazy. But then there are the gems. On of my close teammates is pregnant. I LOVE HER because truly you would never know. She NEVER complains. She constantly is sensitive to my feelings. On the other hand there is a girl pregnant on another team. She had a miscarriage last year. She became obsessed with getting pregnant again. She was blessed with a quick pregnancy this summer. She isn't super far along BUT you would think she was 40 weeks pregnant by the way she acts. Today she pushed herself off the chair as if she had a 10 lb baby inside. GAG ME!!!! Thank God she isn't on my team.

My final story.... This is the killer. I told Grumps and he about died. He said next time I should burst into a hysterical crying fit. A mom and her girls were coming to visit her former teachers this afternoon. I have only briefly spoken to her before.

Well she asks me the horrid question through 'sign language.' "Are you..." making a pregnant belly. I paused thinking, "You are STUPID! Who asks that when you don't know me from Adam." I replied with, "Nope!" Usually it stops there. But she has to dig the knife in deeper. She goes on to say, "Really? Everyone is pregnant around here. I thought you would be too."

Ummmm I wanted to spit on her. Of course I smiled while shaking my head and said, "We are waiting for God to give us a miracle. We have been trying for a long time." While I am saying this she keeps walking and says, "Wow, Really?" It ends there. I was SPEECHLESS!!!

When will people learn? Did I look pregnant? Was someone spreading rumors? Did they get me confused with someone else? I am sure it will be all over the neighborhood now. It had started last year when a mom came to see me after 'hearing a rumor.' She wanted me to have her fertility book hoping it would help me. After so many years books don't work but I took it anyway. She said it was a good luck charm. Whatever!

Welcome back to school to me!!!!

28 comments:

Annie said...

One of my tutoring kid's moms did the same thing the other day...

Walked right up and said, "so, are you pregnant yet?"

This woman's mother had just died, so I was shocked at her insensitivity. I was so tempted to reply with, "so, did you bury your mother yet?" but I didn't. That would be horrible. But I thought it!

Lori said...

I vote for spitting on her next time. Or something that rhymes with spitting on her.

jill said...

Oh, it IS only Monday... how are we going to survive this school year??

mkv said...

Ugh...the start of school SUCKS. I'm 3 weeks into it and it still SUCKS (until about May).

The Town Criers said...

Oy--that is the only thing you can say about a person like that. Where was her head OR her heart?

Monica said...

My kids are darn good too! I was expecting the worst from the description the six grade teachers gave of them. Instead I am pleasantly surprised. The teacher that taught next to me was pregnant after I lost Jimmy. It was not bad because she is a close friend. However, another woman was pregnant and she drove me crazy. In fact I was so overjoyed when she moved. Here's hoping that your co-workers get a clue.

jenna sais quoi said...

Ugh! It's so horrible when it happens at work too. You feel like you have to be professional, and not indulge in the breakdown/spitting that you totally DESERVE. Ptooey!

People can be so clueless.

DD said...

Remember: there's no shame in shaming others who can't mind their own business, IMHO.

Shelby said...

How awful!! I have no idea what I would have done in your situation- but I can guarentee that I wouldn't have been as polite. Where do some people get off?? Really?! Hopefully she won't be back.

Fertilize Me said...

SOME PEOPLE .......... GEeeeeeezzzzzzz

Meghan said...

I'm a teacher too and I will never understand why parents of our students think they have free access to our personal information. Befoe school started, 2 different moms asked me if there was any news they should know about. I said we got a new school bus for field trips and both were annoyed with me. One went so far as to ask if she'd see a 'bump' on back to school night.

Nice to know I'm not the only one with crazy parents...I like the kids much better ;)

Katie said...

I work at a sales job where I see customers on a rotating basis. Because of holidays, my d&c, and bad weather, it had been about three months since I had seen a customer that I usually see about once a month. I came into his office and he looked at me and said, "Long time, no see! Did you have a baby?" I actually did start to cry, because I had just been telling his secretary about losing our last baby. He felt like a jerk. I don't think he'll be asking that question again!

PCOSMama said...

Is there no escape from the insensitive morons? It's bad enough when you have to deal with it from family.... and strangers who feel they have the right to ask about your family planning... but to get it from work too? What gives these parents the right to invade your privacy like that? Usually if someone has news they want to share, they will do it. It's rude and inconsiderate to come right out and ask. I'm sure you aren't sporting a 9month-looking belly so they have no reason to be inquiring, other than being nosy.

I've always wished there was a pre-determined response that would somehow let all these people know that they are not only being rude, but are also causing pain with what they consider harmless questions and remarks.

SO sorry you have to continue dealing with this!

choose me. . . . love me said...

Wow, that is SO insensitive. I like Grumps idea. Maybe she would think twice about her words and gestures. Don't these people know any better? I apologize if I have ever done anything stupid like that or insensitive, and I hope you would tell me if I did because I don't want to ever hurt you. I don't think I have. I like that you have a blog so I can just read about how things are going. But, I do hate that I haven't seen you in forever!

LJ said...

Wow, that is STUPID. I mean, it's one thing if you LOOK pregnant. I've seen you. You're tiny (not allowed to argue the point, you are).

You could always look at the person, and say, no - why would you ask that? That should put THEM on the spot. So sorry sweetie.

dmarie said...

Dear me--that was just rude.

I have "charm" too that someone passed on to us. Fertility statue--2 of them. lol

Jenna said...

so tough. All of it. We are in our 3rd week, but out first real week an I could swear it was April or something. The end is too far away.

As for the dumbass with the comments.... grrr... I think that's why I hate returning to school each year. It's like an explosion of "good news" on te first day!

tracey said...

Next time punch her in the ovaries 'cause that's what Jesus would do. >: )

Chris said...

Welcome back to school! I remember well how exhausting the first weeks of school are. I always had to take a nap when I got home! I can't believe some of those parents you talked about! I hope that things get better.

Debby said...

oh you know i've been there too many times before too. I feel your pain.

In and Out of Luck said...

Spit! By all means, spit. I hope that next time that happens to me, I will be able to give my best haughty look and say "My heavens, aren't you the inquisitive one!"

Courtney said...

Some people can just be downright insensitive and dumb!

*Thank you for the kind comments you posted for me today.

Wordgirl said...

What a great blog! Teacher to teacher I completely understand. Kids don't really have a filter -- and most surprisingly the adults who SHOULD, don't! I'm new to the blog world but I'm glad to have found yours -- thank you for your welcome and thanks for this site!

Barb said...

Oooooohhh we have a girl like that at work right now too, and on top of it, she's is NOT a nice girl! I want to slap her regularly. It's almost the exact same situation! (except that she had just been trying a long time, didn't have a m/c) She acts like the pregnancy is a burden.

Anyway.. I understand what you mean. Thanks for your comment!

Lea Bee said...

ugh! two options next time: stare at her *hard* and say 'we. are. working. on. it.' or step on her foot with your heel.

Pamela Jeanne said...

The absolute nerve and stupidity of some people. If I were ruler of the world I'd banish individuals like that and then let them wonder why. Mandatory sterility might be my next move ... sorry you had to face that idiot up close and personal.

Anna said...

Oh PUH-LEASE!!! If there is one place where insensitive idiots breed it is schools! You poor thing, Sunny! I am a teacher too and have had similarly ridiculous things happen. Makes me want to go and deck them for you! I think you win in the end - you are beautiful, gracious and wise. Just like the heroines in all Jane Austen novels. The stupid people at your school are like the stupid fools in Jane Austen novels. Everyone rolls their eyes and cringes at them.

Manda said...

Oy, some people!!