Sunday, August 26, 2007

Your Blog, My Poll

If you were checking blogs last night you might have read one of my crazy posts. I was having a moment. Well I went to bed with clarity realizing it was stupid. This morning I decided to delete it. I have NEVER deleted a post before. But this was one which won that honor. Now onto better things!

Does your spouse read your blog?

I had a talk about this with fellow bloggers. They both said yes. I was sort of surprised. I have no problem with Grumps reading my blog. I have told him before to check it out. But he is afraid I might portray him in a bad light. I have opened my blog at left it at certain posts for him to read. He is usually amazed at how fast I can get my thoughts out. I just throw out my words. He over thinks and analyzes. He wants it to be perfect. I just want to get my thoughts out there.

SO once again, does your spouse read your blog? How do you feel about it?

30 comments:

Karaoke Diva said...

My hubby, my parents, my sister, 2 coworkers and an aunt all read my blog. If I could have done things over I wouldn't have shared the address with my parents and aunt just because now if I want to bitch about my parents, I have to password-protect the post. I actually like sharing my blog with my husband for the most part. It clues him in to how I'm feeling since I tend to keep a smile on my face to mask the pain, but in my blog I am totally honest.

Shelby said...

My husband, inlaws, mom, and many friends all read mine. I prefer it that way, because sometimes I'm such a chicken. I have something I need to say to someone (like my husband), but can't seem to say it to him. So I blog about it, and he gets the point. I get it off my chest, he reads it, we talk about it later after we've both digested it, or figured out how to talk about it. Interesteing, and I'm sure a therapist would have a field day with it, but it works for me.

Fertilize Me said...

i have shared my blog with one real life friend and my husband. I really am glad that my husband reads it. And he is glad i write it. We both agree that it has allowed me to have a place to leave my feelings and thoughts. I feel sometimes it has proven itself to be an easier form of communication for our marriage. I am ususally able to have conversations without having all the fiery, explosive tears and emotions. The comments that you wonderful women leave me, allow him to see that I am not the only one that feels certains ways. He is also glad that he does not have to be my only supporter on this issue. ..i could go on and on -but I'll stop- sorry it's so long

Meghan said...

Right now, no, he doesn't read it. I just started this whole blogging thing and I don't ever want to feel like I shouldn't say something b/c it might hurt his feelings (he can be very sensitive). Not to say I'll keep it this way forever

Karen said...

My husband occasionally checks in on my blog if he thinks of it, but doesn't read it with any regularity and wouldn't if I asked him not to.

Unlike some of the others who have commented so far, I would DIE if my mother, MIL, or other similar folks read my blog, though.

I have absolutely no problem with my husband reading my blog, as I don't say anything in it I wouldn't say to him, and if I haven't said it to him already, it's really just because we haven't had a chance to sit down and talk yet.

Monica said...

I have a few IRL who read it, they are members of my support group and have all dealt with either infertility, pregnancy or infant loss. DH does not read my blog and he better not "stumble" across it. I have also deleted a post, ironically about my husband! I was complaining about it and decided not to do that in the off chance that it got back to him (like maybe he was goog.ling pregnancy loss). I think it is neat that DH reads your blog. I doubt mine wants to because then he'd have to address the issues going on in my mind. But you've made me so curious about this mystery post of yours. : )

dmarie said...

Mine says he doesn't read it. I'm not sure I believe him though...lol It wouldn't bother me if he did read it.

choose me. . . . love me said...

My husband reads my blog and even helped me design my header. I'm glad he reads it, especially because of the content having to do a lot with him. . . . and so far he hasn't felt offended. I have some friends that read it, but I haven't told family about it! I am careful though not to say bad stuff about m-i-l and family because one day they may discover it!

PCOSMama said...

My husband reads my blog, but not by my choice. Part of the reason I started it was because sometimes I just need to get out my feelings and sometimes those feelings involve him. If I get it all out in my blog, I can then deal with it more calmly if/when I confront him about it. But he secretly started reading it and we had a huge fight over a post that featured him being an a$$. So, now I just make sure not to badmouth him on my blog!

Noone else in my family reads it and only 2 of my close friends do. Everyone else I prefer to keep in the dark about it because there are times I need to vent about them! ;P

Lori said...

Oh I WISH Hubby was interested enough to check out my blog.

He keeps threatening, but there's always a Red Sox game competing for his attention.

There's always November...

The Town Criers said...

Damnitty-damn! The subscribe function doesn't send out the deleted post. See--this is the draw back to waiting for it to be mailed to you.

My spouse reads my blog. And writes on my blog in the Annex sometimes. I like that he knows where I am emotionally without me needing to drag him left and right through the process. He thinks I'm more calm this time around. He likes that I have an outlet. He also used to write a blog that was popular in some circles so he gets it. He gets the blogging thing...And the IF thing...

Somewhat Ordinary said...

Nope, I don't even think he knows it exists. He knows that I have a lot of on-line friends going through IF, but I have kind of used this as my own private thing. And now that I'm password protected I doubt he'd be able to.

Reproductive Jeans said...

Yes, he does--and I try to have him post more than his one appearance=) He is very supportive and knows its good therapy for me.

Searching said...

Nope, he doesn't even know about this one. We each have our own MySpace and don't have each other as friends. We have each other for support, but also have our own circles of friends. I like having a female perspective on things, someone who understands and vents along with me. He likes having friends interested in his running progress (as boring to me as obsessing about future babies is to him). It works just fine for us. :)

Chris said...

My hubby does read my blog. He isn't obsessive about checking daily, but he does check periodically just to make sure that he isn't missing anything. I usually don't post about anything he doesn't already know about, but sometimes he just gets it a little bit more when he reads the words. I know that he is glad I have this outlet.

Cynthia said...

It's a double-edged sword for me because on one hand I want my family and husband to read my blog to 'better' understand how I feel about infertility and life, in general. But, on another hand, if I have something to get off of my chest and it has to do with those individuals, that's not a good thing. I try to keep it all positive, though. That way everyone can leave with something. If I have something to get off of my chest, I try to do it in the best way possible so that nobody gets offended. My husband said he doesn't like for me to blog about our life because everyone sees it, but I haven't been one (in many years) to put up that front. He likes for everyone to believe that we are still this golden couple, but we aren't. And infertility definitely threw the golden out the window a long time ago. Although, it's really weird that my husband reads my blog. I just want to tell him, "if you don't like it, don't read it."

What do you do, though?

jenna sais quoi said...

Nope- not only does hubby not know about the blog, but I haven't officially told anyone I know about it.

Most ppl I know hear enough about the whole situation on a day-to-day basis , they don't need to read about it here!

Nica said...

Yes, he does. (He pretends not to, at times, but he so does.)

No one else, though, IRL. I'm not that brave.

Debby said...

i've told DH about my blog but he is quite uninterested and finds it all quite silly...but should he want to read he knows where it is. Now...my parents know I blog but don't know the address so can't access it. I would be fine with them reading mine, but my sister is linked to mine and she doens't want them to read hers, therefore, I don't tell them mine. But I'm kind of an open book....so I really don't mind anyone reading mine. To be honest if I ever had anything super private, I wouldnt' post it on the internet for the world to read anyway.

Debby said...

oh...and i hate that I didn't get to read your deleted blog -i'm all curious now! Maybe I'll get you drunk and get you to tell me :-)

Dreamer4agift said...

My hubby has read bits and pieces before, but I don't ever know when he does b/c he never comments on them. I've asked him multiple times to read my blog, but he always says "I don't like the whole blog thing." He doesn't like that everyone can read it...but I explained that it's my way of getting my feelings out without exploding. I wish he would read more, but I think that's a lost cause. A few of my friends, my SIL and MIL, and sometimes my family members read my blog--but they too never comment on it...I don't get many comments, or many visitors, so who knows. But enough rambling, to answer your question: No, he doesn't really read it and my feelings are that I wish he would but he won't. The End:)

Chrystie said...

Sunny, you're so pickin' popular: look at all the blog comments you get! 'Course, you're nice and comment on other people's blogs, so they're probably more apt to write on yours. Sigh...

And, yup, Dear Husband reads my blog. I don't mind. He already knows that I talk about him in sordid detail with my girlfriends, so it's not a big deal. However, my MIL also reads my blog, so I do have to be careful about what I write about husband, and, of course, our sex life (or lack thereof).

In and Out of Luck said...

No, mine doesn't read. He does know about it (it took me about month of blogging to tell him) but to his mind, it would be like reading my diary, or reading an e-mail I'd sent to a friend. But if he asked to read it, I would not say no.

Amber said...

Yes, he reads it occasionally... Doesn't bother me, after this long how could he not know how I really feel?

lub said...

When I started blogging a whopping 2 weeks ago I thought about letting people know that they can read it so that they would know how I really felt about IF. I changed my mind though when I realized I would be posting about my AF and hopefully one day a BFP and don't want people who have to see me every day to know those intimate details. I have mentioned to FJ that he could read it but I don't think he is interested. He already thinks I am obsessed with the internet and I am afraid he will see how right he is if he tooled around my blog!

tracey said...

nope - he's not really interested in it i guess - i'm pretty transparent with him, and after all this time, my marriage is in trouble if he doesn't know how i feel.

GLouise said...

He knows about my blog, but hasn't asked to read it. I guess he must respect my privacy! LOL.

I have shown him some blog entries of OTHER people though! LOL.

niobe said...

He *just* found my blog. Eeek!!!

Trish said...

Far as I know, mine doesn't. he's come and stood at my shoulder while I'm writing, but that's about it. Now, he may have taken note of the URL and looked it up, but I don't know that. And I think he'd tell me if he had.
I think he just appreciated how therapeutic it's been for me to write and leaves me be.

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