Sunday, September 24, 2006

Oprah

I emailed Oprah today. Crazy I know but it has been on my mind for a long time.

Infertility needs to be addressed. The world needs to know about us, the infertiles and what it is like to be in our shoes. There needs to be a level of sensitivity place on people. People speak before they think.

I am sure my little email will get lost among the millions but I needed to do my part. I believe she did a show in woman trying after 40. But there is more to it then that. I found a little article on her website about infertility. It didn't even scratch the surface.

Here is my little email. We all shall see if anything happens with it. Maybe it was a stupid idea. Who knows?

My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for almost 4 years. We thought the road to a child would be an easy process. We had saved ourselves for marriage and truly believed that when the time was right we would get pregnant. We never thought we would be a part of the fast growing infertility community. I call infertility the silent disease. More people are talking about it now but for such a long time it was never talked about. I remember growing up and there being many couples without children. I just assumed that they didn't want kids. It never occurred to me that they couldn't have children. There are so many reasons for infertility. There are also so many different treatments and tests that women and men go through daily just to maybe have the hope for a child. I believe that it needs to be talked about more. I believe that women and men need to know that they aren't alone. They don't have to be ashamed. I also would like those who have not gone through infertility to try to understand what it is like. People can be so hurtful and insensitive without even realizing it. Maybe if they knew what it is like to desperately want a child they would reconsider their advice, opinions and comments. I know that just relaxing, getting a dog, beginning the adoption process or getting drunk one night will not give me a child. People just need to be aware of us, the infertility community. It is a fast growing community. On the internet there are many message support groups where women ban together for support and advice. There are also hundreds of blogs where women share their story. I began a blog a couple of years ago after feeling that others needed to know that they weren't alone and it was okay to be sad. There are some amazing stories that women share. The heartache is huge. I have read stories where women have tried for years and never gave up the fight. There are others who have had numerous miscarriages and yet continue to get up and go to work. Their stories inspire me. They show me the true strength and spirit of woman. Thank you for your time. I hope you will consider looking into doing a show about infertility. It needs to be talked about.

10 comments:

Sunny said...

I have no clue where my paragraphs went. WOW that makes my brain hurt just looking at it.

Anonymous said...

Great email! Pray Oprah will take your suggestion to heart and address infertility in an enlightening, warm, and sensitive way on her show.
Would love to see you on T.V.!! :)
Let us all know when it happens!

Jen said...

not a stupid idea at all, i wish for so much it's getting tiring saying/typing the word wish, but i do wish the greater population weren't so ignorant of the truth behind infertility. well done for emailing a well written letter, fingers crossed it gets read (i really don't know how those shows operate)and your letter adds to others and sparks an entire show.

laura said...

wonderful letter. please let us know if you get a response.

Sunny said...

Thanks girls. I will let you know if I hear anything. Who knows?

hotlipz said...

Wait a cotton pickin minute here. You saved yourself for marriage?

GLouise said...

Let us know if Oprah writes back!

I remember her O magazine addressed the issue of fertility drugs a few years ago, in a very cautionary, "is this worth it," light.

Sunny said...

Hots my comment didn't make it here this morning. Weird. I knew I would get a rise out of you!

Glouise I will keep you posted. I doubt I will ever here anything. I would love to read that issue!

K said...

This is awesome. If someone at the Oprah show doesn't read this and go 'We should totally do a show on this' they are idiots.

Really, really well-written.

Sunny said...

Oh K you make me blush!!! I think we should do the show too. HA! Wouldn't we be a sight. Thanks for the compliment. I just wrote from my heart.