Oprah

I emailed Oprah today. Crazy I know but it has been on my mind for a long time.

Infertility needs to be addressed. The world needs to know about us, the infertiles and what it is like to be in our shoes. There needs to be a level of sensitivity place on people. People speak before they think.

I am sure my little email will get lost among the millions but I needed to do my part. I believe she did a show in woman trying after 40. But there is more to it then that. I found a little article on her website about infertility. It didn't even scratch the surface.

Here is my little email. We all shall see if anything happens with it. Maybe it was a stupid idea. Who knows?

My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for almost 4 years. We thought the road to a child would be an easy process. We had saved ourselves for marriage and truly believed that when the time was right we would get pregnant. We never thought we would be a part of the fast growing infertility community. I call infertility the silent disease. More people are talking about it now but for such a long time it was never talked about. I remember growing up and there being many couples without children. I just assumed that they didn't want kids. It never occurred to me that they couldn't have children. There are so many reasons for infertility. There are also so many different treatments and tests that women and men go through daily just to maybe have the hope for a child. I believe that it needs to be talked about more. I believe that women and men need to know that they aren't alone. They don't have to be ashamed. I also would like those who have not gone through infertility to try to understand what it is like. People can be so hurtful and insensitive without even realizing it. Maybe if they knew what it is like to desperately want a child they would reconsider their advice, opinions and comments. I know that just relaxing, getting a dog, beginning the adoption process or getting drunk one night will not give me a child. People just need to be aware of us, the infertility community. It is a fast growing community. On the internet there are many message support groups where women ban together for support and advice. There are also hundreds of blogs where women share their story. I began a blog a couple of years ago after feeling that others needed to know that they weren't alone and it was okay to be sad. There are some amazing stories that women share. The heartache is huge. I have read stories where women have tried for years and never gave up the fight. There are others who have had numerous miscarriages and yet continue to get up and go to work. Their stories inspire me. They show me the true strength and spirit of woman. Thank you for your time. I hope you will consider looking into doing a show about infertility. It needs to be talked about.